Woman


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WOMAN. . . . . . . . .
When God created woman he was working late on the 6th day…….
An angel came by and asked.” Why spend so much time on her?”
The lord answered. “Have you seen all the specifications I have to meet to shape her?”
She must function on all kinds of situations,
She must be able to embrace several kids at the same time,
Have a hug that can heal anything from a bruised knee to a broken heart,
She must do all this with only two hands,”
She cures herself when sick and can work 18 hours a day”
THE ANGEL was impressed” Just two hands…..impossible!
And this is the standard model?”
The Angel came closer and touched the woman”
“But you have made her so soft, Lord”.
“She is soft”, said the Lord,
“But I have made her strong. You can’t imagine what she can endure and overcome”
“Can she think?” The Angel asked…
The Lord answered. “Not only can she think, she can reason and negotiate”
The Angel touched her cheeks….
“Lord, it seems this creation is leaking! You have put too many burdens on her”
“She is not leaking…it is a tear” The Lord corrected the Angel‚Ķ
“What’s it for?” Asked the Angel….. .
The Lord said. “Tears are her way of expressing her grief, her doubts, her love, her loneliness, her suffering and her pride.”…
This made a big impression on the Angel,
“Lord, you are a genius. You thought of everything.
A woman is indeed marvellous”
Lord said.”Indeed she is.
She has strength that amazes a man.
She can handle trouble and carry heavy burdens.
She holds happiness, love and opinions.
She smiles when she feels like screaming.
She sings when she feels like crying, cries when happy and laughs when afraid.
She fights for what she believes in.
Her love is unconditional.
Her heart is broken when a next-of-kin or a friend dies but she finds strength to get on with life”
The Angel asked: So she is a perfect being?
The lord replied: No. She has just one drawback
“She often forgets what she is worth”.
Send it to all the women u respect ….ūüĎć
And to all men who respect woman ūüĎćūüĎć
W O M A N:
‚óŹ changes her name.
‚óŹ changes her home.
‚óŹ leaves her family.
‚óŹ moves in with you.
‚óŹ builds a home with you.
‚óŹ gets pregnant for you.
‚óŹ pregnancy changes her body.
‚óŹ she gets fat.
‚óŹ almost gives up in the labour room due to the unbearable pain of child birth..
‚óŹ even the kids she delivers bear your name..
Till the day she dies.. everything she does… cooking, cleaning your house, taking care of your parents, bringing up your children, earning, advising you, ensuring you can be relaxed, maintaining all family relations, everything that benefit you.. sometimes at the cost of her own health, hobbies and beauty.
So who is really doing whom a favour?
Dear men, appreciate the women in your lives always, because it is not easy to be a woman.
*Being a woman is priceless*
Happy women’s week!
Pass this to every woman in your contact to make her feel proud of herself.
Rock the world ladies!
A salute to ladies!
WOMAN MEANS:-
W – WONDERFUL MOTHER.
O – OUTSTANDING FRIEND.
M – MARVELLOUS DAUGHTER.
A – ADORABLE SISTER.
N – NICEST GIFT TO MEN FROM GOD.
I respect women.

Dont Hate Turkey! Sarai Sierra, American Tourist, Killed by Blow to Head


Sarai Sierra, American Tourist, Killed by Blow to Head, Turkish Police Say

A New York City woman vacationing alone in Istanbul was killed by at least one fatal blow to her head, Turkish officials said today. The body of Sarai Sierra, 33, was was identified by her husband, Steven Sierra, in a morgue, Istanbul police chief Huseyin Capkin said today. After an intense search that lasted nearly two weeks, the body of Sarai Sierra was found near the ruins of some ancient city walls and a highway on Saturday. Sierra was wearing the same outfit she was seen wearing on…Full Story

I am not going to discuss the whys and wherefores of this poor woman’s death because we don’t really know what happened.

I have to say i am disgusted with a majority of comments i have¬†read around the net. There are people bringing religion, ‘Islam’ into it, talk about how the Muslims hate Americans etc. People who have never been outside their own countries stating how awful, backward and dirty Turkey is. This is mainly coming from Americans and probably the ignorant unenlightened majority whilst the other decent Americans have to take the flak!

People have asked questions which i will give my opinion below.

Comment:What is a married woman doing going alone to Turkey to take pictures.

A:This is 2013 and women don’t need chaperone’s and that includes the majority of Turkish women.

Comment: She had children she shouldn’t have gone off alone.

A: The children have a father too don’t they? A woman does not stop living because she has children if they are in safe loving hands of family. There are reasons families cant always go away together, does that mean a women is always the one to stay behind?

Comment: Americans shouldn’t travel to Muslim countries. They hate us!

A: I wonder why? Look at your foreign policy but it has not been shown that this is a hate crime so there you go ‘Islamophobia’

Comment: So you leave your kids to go off on some trip to a country where you know Muslims live and who¬†will be very upset that you are walking around in jeans without a male escort?¬† I’m a man and would never go into any Islamic country, at least not without the second U.S. Army.

A:How ridiculous is this commenter?¬†Many women in Istanbul and most parts of Turkey dress in¬†jeans, skirts, tee shirts¬†etc. They just don’t show a lot of flesh.¬† Turkey receives over 30 million tourists a year and ¬†the vast majority of Turkish people, including men, are honest, kind and decent but i suppose you will find a few like the commentator above !

I travelled alone a lot when i was younger because i am a bit of an adventurer. It was almost impossible for me and hubby to be able to go as a family as there was always an obstruction. My girls had grown up before i started travelling but i wouldn’t have hesitated to travel even when they were small if we could have afforded it.

Bearing in mind that we are Muslims you can see that we are very enlightened and believe in the rights of men and women. Although hubby would be nervous about me travelling alone, he understood the thirst i had for seeing new places and cultures and gave me his blessings. He put my care in Allah and in my good sense.

I have visited Morocco, Egypt, Tunisia¬† and Pakistan and i must say it opened my eyes and changed the misconceptions i had about so called third world countries. Unless you have been to these places you cant make a judgment by what you hear in the media. I won’t go into that here though.

My most loved place is Turkey where I/we have been going to for 16 years also having a second home there for 12 years .Its a beautiful place with good-natured hospitable people who are very welcoming.

Having mastered the worst pigeon Turkish we are able to communicate and make friends, watch tv and read newspapers. We have also explored non tourist areas in Turkey so i believe i have a right to say that  I understand the people and the culture.

On the whole Turkish people are torn between extremities of old and new but are seriously the most modern of Muslim countries. I have found that, just like anyone in any other country is that if you treat them with respect you get that back.

I do know that the tourist areas are probably the paces with the worst reputation for touting, hard selling and flirting and lone women should be aware and not believe everything they are told by the men. Most people in the tourist areas come from inland Turkey where they can live from hand to mouth so when they see an opportunity to benefit themselves they have no scruples regarding hitching up with a tourist. I have to admit that if i was in their shoes i might do the same.

Crimes against foreigners are not as common as many Americans think. In fact on the whole Turkey’s crime statistics are 10 times better than US. I have bought 3 properties over the years carrying large amounts of money from bank to bank in taxis and peoples cars, i have left my handbag twice in a¬†taxi and in a restaraunt and had them delivered back to my home/hotel. I have been escorted by families late at night making sure that i get home safely. When electricity goes off for hours or even all day, people have sent food or lamps. ¬†If you are a visitor in a home as a guest you will be treated like royalty. If you need help there is always someone willing to help you even go out of their way to do so. I love the way people in Turkey look out for each other. Everything is not perfect nor is it anywhere but i have never felt afraid or alone in Turkey.

I have travelled to many many countries, Muslim and Christian and the people are no different except in the way they look, dress or behave socially. I find that a majority of tourists treat the natives as if they¬†are ignorant or stupid when in fact they themselves are the ones who are! People who don’t travel far from their own culture think that their way is the only way and the rest of the world are wrong.

If you are a woman travelling alone to Turkey or for that matter any country you are as safe as you would be anywhere follow the rules below.

  • Always research the place your going to making sure you stay in a populated reputable area.
  • Learn a bit of the language, it will be appreciated.
  • Let people know of your plans even at your hotel.
  • Be friendly with other women including the natives. You can get advice are even a companion.
  • Walk assertively and confidently.
  • Don’t go out with strangers or even go to any unpopulated area¬†alone .
  • Consider wearing a (fake) wedding ring.
  • Trust your intuition.

Istanbul was the 5th most visited city in 2012

Muslim-Jewish marriages herald a brave new world


Muslim-Jewish marriages herald a brave new world | Jonathan Romain | guardian.co.uk

ÔŅĹSomething surprising is beginning to emerge in marriage patterns between members of different religions in Britain. In the past, “marrying out” was seen either as a religious sin, partnering up with an unbeliever, or as a social crime, betraying the faith group identity

But in today’s much more tolerant, pluralist society, mixed-faith marriage has become commonplace. People who mix together at work, socialise together afterwards. They concentrate on what they have in common ‚Äď be it music, sport or crosswords ‚Äď not the theologies that divide them.

In the past century in Britain, intermarriage tend to mean Jews (the main minority faith group) marrying Christians. However, in recent years a new trend has arisen: Muslims intermarrying. It reflects the fact that not only is there now a substantial Muslim community, but it is becoming more integrated in British society.

No one is surprised that some Muslims marry Christians ‚Äď they are the majority population ‚Äď but to the astonishment of many, Muslims and Jews are beginning to marry each other. This is unexpected, as the Israel-Arab problems in the Middle East have affected relationships between members of the two faiths over here.

Read more via Muslim-Jewish marriages herald a brave new world | Jonathan Romain        guardian.co.uk.

 

Post 9/11 travel. What does a Muslim look like?


Slowly-by-slowley (A roadtrip through one Turkish-American marriage)  writes On post 9/11 travel. This is the blog of a very wise, educated young woman who touches a subject that has prompted me to write this post.

I traveled to The US many years ago and really enjoyed the experience. Americans are just like me, they don’t have 2 heads or shoot you on sight. They are friendly, grumpy, rude,polite, ignorant, educated and they are just like anyone else on the planet ūüėČ However… their politics/policies leave a great deal to be desired, especially after 9/11

I would have loved to take my dear hubby to the Space Center in Houston, Texas. To show him that dear old UK would look like a toy town compared to Miami, Florida or Tennessee, the places i have visited. He would not believe the size of the plates and glasses served¬† up in fast food joints and even in cafes where you can get 1/2 a litre of coke in a standard glass! I could go on and on about the massive differences i enjoyed experiencing but i just don’t have the time.

Since 9/11 many people we know¬†including non Muslims who are Asian¬† have had terrible experiences after arriving at airports in the US. An Indian female (Hindu) co worker of my hubby was held for 1 hour in solitary before being strip searched. She was quite traumatised and in tears all of the time. Her holiday to visit relatives was ruined. A Sikh…for goodness sake, wearing a turban had a similar experience. He was made to remove his turban which you may or may not know is an article of faith that has been made mandatory by the founders of Sikhism. It is not to be regarded as mere cultural paraphernalia. Its an insult to make someone take it off.

Strip searching is taking place even with US citizens and that’s bad enough but the treatment is even worse for people who look Asian or Middle Eastern

Now i know you might say the US have to protect themselves from terrorism but its become mass paranoia hyped by the media and politics to their own agenda. I would like people to reflect on who are actually the ‘Terrorists’ Come on Americans is this really how you want the world to see you? Is this how you want to be treated?

Unfortunately hubby refuses to be put through the process of detainment,strip search and humiliation. I know for a fact that if we did go together i would suffer the same humiliation as him.

This had deprived America of the pleasure of meeting me :-0

Islam and Muslims. Questions and Answers


Today I felt a need to write about Islam. I usually don’t discuss Politics or Religion as these subjects can get quite heated but in this instance I decided to open a post which will allow people to learn a little bit and give them an opportunity to ask questions

As a Muslim it hurts and makes me ashamed of the actions of so called fellow Muslims. It seems we are all judged the same. No one in their right minds can agree that acts of terror or barbaric actions are acceptable from anyone

True Muslims believe in peace for all humanity. Islam is the religion of peace. Even its greeting which is “Salam” is the Arabic word for “peace”. Violence in Islam is not acceptable even against animals. There is an element within Muslim community to who do not adhere to this. There are similar groups in other countries who are not Muslim like the Irish Republican Army in Ireland used to be or the Tamil Tigers in Sri Lanka.¬† I also include other so called Christian nations (unnamed) ¬†Any of whom could be called terrorist or who have done terrorist like acts.

I have come across  too many sites that claim to teach about/give information about or proclaim to be Islamic which are full of crap! Excuse my language but it makes me so mad that people who want to find out information are being fed lies and hatred. I hope to direct you to authentic websites and also answer your questions to the best of my ability.

To start you off i will give an example of misconceptions and this is for Muslims as well. However we will always find those who will not agree and have their own school of thought.

 Question:

Does Islam require women to cover themselves?

Answer:

Yes:(24:30) (O Prophet), enjoin believing men to cast down their looks29 and guard their private parts.30 That is purer for them. Surely Allah is well aware of all what they do. (24:31) And enjoin believing women to cast down their looks31 and guard their private32 parts33 and not reveal their adornment34 except that which is revealed of itself,35 and to draw their veils over their bosoms,36 and not to reveal their adornment save to their husbands,37 or their fathers, or the fathers of their husbands,38 or of their own sons, or the sons of their husbands,39 or their brothers,40 or the sons of their brothers,41 or the sons of their sisters,42 or the women with whom they associate,43 or those that are in their bondage,44 or the male attendants in their service free of sexual interest,45 or boys that are yet unaware of illicit matters pertaining to women.46 Nor should they stamp their feet on the ground in such manner that their hidden ornament becomes revealed.47 Believers, turn together, all of you, to Allah in repentance49 that you may attain true success.48

However there are many who would interpet this according to their own way but if you really want to know more  i suggest you visit the link below.

http://www.islamicstudies.info/tafheem.php?sura=24&verse=30&to=31

What does Jihad really mean?

The word Jihad represents a concept which is much misunderstood in the West. The concept is explained nicely by the Christian scholar Ira 6. Zepp, Jr. in his book entitled A Muslim Primer on pages 133-135.

The essential meaning of Jihad is the spiritual, psychological, and physical effort we exert to be close to God and thus achieve a just and harmonious society. Jihad literally means “striving” or “struggle” and is shorthand for Jihad fi Sabeel Allah (struggle for God’s cause). In a sense, every Muslim is a Mujahid, one who strives for God and justice.
Al-Ghazali captured the essence of Jihad when he said: “The real Jihad is the warfare against (one’s own) passions. Dr. Ibrahim Abu-Rabi calls Jihad “the execution of effort against evil in the self and every manifestation of evil in society.” In a way, Jihad is the Muslim’s purest sacrifice: a struggle to live a perfect life and completely submit to God.
Another form of Jihad is the striving to translate the Word of God into action. If one has experienced God and received guidance from the Qur’an, one struggles to apply that guidance in daily life. So the larger, more prevalent meaning of Jihad is the spiritual struggle of the soul. In this case, Jihad is always present for the believer whether there is an external enemy or not. We should never reduce Jihad to violence.
A third level of Jihad is popularly known as “holy war.” The classic passage is found in the Qur’an: Fight in the way of Allah those who fight against you, but transgress not the limits. Truly Allah likes not the transgressors (Qur’an 2:190).
It is crucial to note here that what is condoned is defensive warfare; Islam cannot justify aggressive war. Muhammad and the Tradition are also against killing non-combatants, torturing of prisoners, the destruction of crops, animals and homes. Adapted from Ira 6. Zepp, Jr., A Muslim Primer (1992, Wakefield Editions, US) pp.133-135.

Is a Muslims God different to a Christian God?

In Islamic theology, God (Arabic: AllńĀh) is the all-powerful and all-knowing creator, sustainer, ordainer, and judge of the universe.[1][2] Islam puts a heavy emphasis on the conceptualization of God as strictly singular (tawhid).[3] God is unique (wahid) and inherently One (ahad), all-merciful and omnipotent.[4] According to the Islamic teachings, God exists without a place.[5] According to the Qur’an, “No vision can grasp Him, but His grasp is over all vision. God is above all comprehension, yet is acquainted with all things” (Qur’an 6:103)[2]

Please feel free to ask any questions in a respectfull manner. I will delete any comments that are made to stir up hatred on all sides.

 

Destiny and Fate


We always seem blame circumstances for our mistakes and failures in life. We keep telling ourselves that it all happened for a reason.

Different concepts of destiny and fate
Destiny is seen as the final outcome, independent of the events that precede, which are inevitable and unchangeable per themselves, but as a sequence, could be arranged and rearranged in order to arrive to the final outcome.

There is the often confusing argument that individuals can choose their own destiny by selecting different “paths” throughout their life even though the different courses of action the individuals take nonetheless lead to a very predetermined destiny.

To escape the contradiction (the incompatibility of philosophical terminology) of this argument and fully support the concept of destiny, most believe it necessaeclare and accept this notion of choice(free will) as illusion. Another belief, known as Micaic Destiny, states that free will and destiny can coincide in harmony. This argument states that we all make only one unchangeable choice every moment. Simply because a certain choice will inevitably be made does NOT mean that we do not make our own decisions. This belief assumes that we have no power to accurately and precisely predict the future.

A question which has always engaged human attention is whether the affairs of this world are going on in accordance with a pre-arranged and inevitable program. Are all the events in this world governed by an invisible but immensely powerful force called fate and destiny? Is everything that is happening now or will ever happen, predetermined? Is man subject to determinism and has no liberty of choosing? Or is it that there is no such thing as fate and man is absolutely free to determine his own destiny? Or is it that actually there operates a third alternative, according to which all events of the world are governed by destiny, the influence of which extends to everything without exception, but still its irresistible influence does not curtail human liberty in the least. If this is the case, how is it to be explained?

The question of fate and destiny is one of the most equivocal philosophical questions. For certain reasons to be explained later, it has been a subject of dispute among the Muslim thinkers from the first century of the Hijri era. The various views held in this connection have caused many controversies and given rise to a number of sects in the Muslim world with queer results during the past fourteen centuries.

Though it is a so called metaphysical subject, for two reasons it also comes under the category or practical and social questions.

The first reason is that man’s way of thinking about this question affects his practical life and social attitude.

It is obvious that the spirit and attitude of a man looking at himself as a being subject to inexorable determinism, is different from those of one who believes that he has been created free and hence he is master of his destiny.

Generally speaking, most of the philosophical questions do not affect the spirit, attitude and actions of man. The practical attitude and the social spirit of a person are not influenced by such questions as the temporal eternity or transcience of the universe, the finiteness or infinitude of its dimensions, the system of causation, the theory that many cannot emanate from one and the identicalness of the essence and the attributes of the Self-existent Being.

The second reason is that the doctrine of fate and destiny, despite its being a personal belief, comes under the category of the questions of universal application, for the number of people who are in search of its solutions is very large.

It is one of those questions which engage the attention of nearly all those who have some capacity of thinking over general questions. Everybody is naturally interested in knowing whether he is at liberty to determine his course of life or it has already been irrevocably determined by his fate.

The scope of other philosophical questions is limited. They are only a matter of personal and private interest and do not attract such a general attention.

From these two view-points this question may be included in the category of practical, universal and social problems.

In olden days attention was seldom paid to the practical and social effects of this question. It was discussed only from theoretical, philosophical and scholastic points of view. But modern scholars give more heed to its practical and social aspects, and look at it from the angle of its effect on the way of thinking of the nations and their progress and decline.

I wonder what yout thoughts are on this subject?

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