Turkey Shooting: Catherine Bury ‘Killed by Gardener’ in Dalyan Holiday Resort – IBTimes UK

Turkey Shooting: Catherine Bury ‘Killed by Gardener’ in Dalyan Holiday Resort – IBTimes UK.

Now all the ignorant, racist bigots will come out of the woodwork. Read the comments in The Huffington Post…atrocious! So many uneducated imbeciles  you can just predict the reactions!!


Muslim-Jewish marriages herald a brave new world

Muslim-Jewish marriages herald a brave new world | Jonathan Romain | guardian.co.uk

�Something surprising is beginning to emerge in marriage patterns between members of different religions in Britain. In the past, “marrying out” was seen either as a religious sin, partnering up with an unbeliever, or as a social crime, betraying the faith group identity

But in today’s much more tolerant, pluralist society, mixed-faith marriage has become commonplace. People who mix together at work, socialise together afterwards. They concentrate on what they have in common – be it music, sport or crosswords – not the theologies that divide them.

In the past century in Britain, intermarriage tend to mean Jews (the main minority faith group) marrying Christians. However, in recent years a new trend has arisen: Muslims intermarrying. It reflects the fact that not only is there now a substantial Muslim community, but it is becoming more integrated in British society.

No one is surprised that some Muslims marry Christians – they are the majority population – but to the astonishment of many, Muslims and Jews are beginning to marry each other. This is unexpected, as the Israel-Arab problems in the Middle East have affected relationships between members of the two faiths over here.

Read more via Muslim-Jewish marriages herald a brave new world | Jonathan Romain        guardian.co.uk.


Turkey here i come !

Turkey has become my second home and has a very special place in my heart.
I do like the hustle and bustle of the resorts, but i really do enjoy visiting the areas out of the tourist resorts, seeing the real Turkey.
Turkey is such a diverse country,and what the tourists  see isn’t really the ‘real’ Turkey,   its just a small part of a wonderful country that deserves  to be explored & appreciated.

I went out there 15 years ago for a 2 week holiday and came back with the legal documents to an apartment, after 4 months i went back to collect the deeds and that was that!. In 15 years i upgraded my apartment to luxury standard and had intentions of retiring there with hubby.

Unfortunately with many health problems that hubby insisted must be dealt with through our health care systems here in the UK i had to give up my dream. It was like a bereavement. I had planned and designed and had all the  furniture hand made to my own designs (not the sofa though)I didn’t settle for cheap stuff either or rent it out, it was supposed to be our retirement home. I had learnt the language enough to communicate, haggle and have a social life with the locals.  The Turkish are a wonderful nation.  They are very family orientated and love children and have great respect for their elders.  They will welcome you into their homes with open arms and share with you everything they have.   I have also learnt that with many in the tourist areas they are always looking to make some money out of the foreigners but i have become very wise now in how to deal with that lol.

I love the food, i love the fresh fruit ans vegetable which are all home grown. Alanya  is the only place in Turkey where bananas are grown and there is nothing like a banana straight from the tree 🙂

Last year we sold up but i am going back in 2 days time and cant wait to visit friends.I will go back to Antalya of course this time staying in a hotel in the lovely city of Alanya. I will miss getting up and having breakfast on my balcony, inviting friends round for dinner or a party and just having te freedom to do what i want. It wont be the same in a hotel 😦

I am still grateful to have had those 15 years and will never forget the good times and the stressful times of learning, adjusting and communicating. If any of my followers have not been to Turkey they should really give it a chance. they would be surprised to know that it is a very developed country in many aspects, yet again it is still a developing one in some others. The Turks are a very warm and welcoming people who will welcome foreigners and will be delighted to help them.

Another noteworthy point is that Turkey’s government has a tradition of being remarkably secular for a Muslim nation.

see you all in 2 weeks 🙂

Post 9/11 travel. What does a Muslim look like?

Slowly-by-slowley (A roadtrip through one Turkish-American marriage)  writes On post 9/11 travel. This is the blog of a very wise, educated young woman who touches a subject that has prompted me to write this post.

I traveled to The US many years ago and really enjoyed the experience. Americans are just like me, they don’t have 2 heads or shoot you on sight. They are friendly, grumpy, rude,polite, ignorant, educated and they are just like anyone else on the planet 😉 However… their politics/policies leave a great deal to be desired, especially after 9/11

I would have loved to take my dear hubby to the Space Center in Houston, Texas. To show him that dear old UK would look like a toy town compared to Miami, Florida or Tennessee, the places i have visited. He would not believe the size of the plates and glasses served  up in fast food joints and even in cafes where you can get 1/2 a litre of coke in a standard glass! I could go on and on about the massive differences i enjoyed experiencing but i just don’t have the time.

Since 9/11 many people we know including non Muslims who are Asian  have had terrible experiences after arriving at airports in the US. An Indian female (Hindu) co worker of my hubby was held for 1 hour in solitary before being strip searched. She was quite traumatised and in tears all of the time. Her holiday to visit relatives was ruined. A Sikh…for goodness sake, wearing a turban had a similar experience. He was made to remove his turban which you may or may not know is an article of faith that has been made mandatory by the founders of Sikhism. It is not to be regarded as mere cultural paraphernalia. Its an insult to make someone take it off.

Strip searching is taking place even with US citizens and that’s bad enough but the treatment is even worse for people who look Asian or Middle Eastern

Now i know you might say the US have to protect themselves from terrorism but its become mass paranoia hyped by the media and politics to their own agenda. I would like people to reflect on who are actually the ‘Terrorists’ Come on Americans is this really how you want the world to see you? Is this how you want to be treated?

Unfortunately hubby refuses to be put through the process of detainment,strip search and humiliation. I know for a fact that if we did go together i would suffer the same humiliation as him.

This had deprived America of the pleasure of meeting me :-0

Islam and Muslims. Questions and Answers

Today I felt a need to write about Islam. I usually don’t discuss Politics or Religion as these subjects can get quite heated but in this instance I decided to open a post which will allow people to learn a little bit and give them an opportunity to ask questions

As a Muslim it hurts and makes me ashamed of the actions of so called fellow Muslims. It seems we are all judged the same. No one in their right minds can agree that acts of terror or barbaric actions are acceptable from anyone

True Muslims believe in peace for all humanity. Islam is the religion of peace. Even its greeting which is “Salam” is the Arabic word for “peace”. Violence in Islam is not acceptable even against animals. There is an element within Muslim community to who do not adhere to this. There are similar groups in other countries who are not Muslim like the Irish Republican Army in Ireland used to be or the Tamil Tigers in Sri Lanka.  I also include other so called Christian nations (unnamed)  Any of whom could be called terrorist or who have done terrorist like acts.

I have come across  too many sites that claim to teach about/give information about or proclaim to be Islamic which are full of crap! Excuse my language but it makes me so mad that people who want to find out information are being fed lies and hatred. I hope to direct you to authentic websites and also answer your questions to the best of my ability.

To start you off i will give an example of misconceptions and this is for Muslims as well. However we will always find those who will not agree and have their own school of thought.


Does Islam require women to cover themselves?


Yes:(24:30) (O Prophet), enjoin believing men to cast down their looks29 and guard their private parts.30 That is purer for them. Surely Allah is well aware of all what they do. (24:31) And enjoin believing women to cast down their looks31 and guard their private32 parts33 and not reveal their adornment34 except that which is revealed of itself,35 and to draw their veils over their bosoms,36 and not to reveal their adornment save to their husbands,37 or their fathers, or the fathers of their husbands,38 or of their own sons, or the sons of their husbands,39 or their brothers,40 or the sons of their brothers,41 or the sons of their sisters,42 or the women with whom they associate,43 or those that are in their bondage,44 or the male attendants in their service free of sexual interest,45 or boys that are yet unaware of illicit matters pertaining to women.46 Nor should they stamp their feet on the ground in such manner that their hidden ornament becomes revealed.47 Believers, turn together, all of you, to Allah in repentance49 that you may attain true success.48

However there are many who would interpet this according to their own way but if you really want to know more  i suggest you visit the link below.


What does Jihad really mean?

The word Jihad represents a concept which is much misunderstood in the West. The concept is explained nicely by the Christian scholar Ira 6. Zepp, Jr. in his book entitled A Muslim Primer on pages 133-135.

The essential meaning of Jihad is the spiritual, psychological, and physical effort we exert to be close to God and thus achieve a just and harmonious society. Jihad literally means “striving” or “struggle” and is shorthand for Jihad fi Sabeel Allah (struggle for God’s cause). In a sense, every Muslim is a Mujahid, one who strives for God and justice.
Al-Ghazali captured the essence of Jihad when he said: “The real Jihad is the warfare against (one’s own) passions. Dr. Ibrahim Abu-Rabi calls Jihad “the execution of effort against evil in the self and every manifestation of evil in society.” In a way, Jihad is the Muslim’s purest sacrifice: a struggle to live a perfect life and completely submit to God.
Another form of Jihad is the striving to translate the Word of God into action. If one has experienced God and received guidance from the Qur’an, one struggles to apply that guidance in daily life. So the larger, more prevalent meaning of Jihad is the spiritual struggle of the soul. In this case, Jihad is always present for the believer whether there is an external enemy or not. We should never reduce Jihad to violence.
A third level of Jihad is popularly known as “holy war.” The classic passage is found in the Qur’an: Fight in the way of Allah those who fight against you, but transgress not the limits. Truly Allah likes not the transgressors (Qur’an 2:190).
It is crucial to note here that what is condoned is defensive warfare; Islam cannot justify aggressive war. Muhammad and the Tradition are also against killing non-combatants, torturing of prisoners, the destruction of crops, animals and homes. Adapted from Ira 6. Zepp, Jr., A Muslim Primer (1992, Wakefield Editions, US) pp.133-135.

Is a Muslims God different to a Christian God?

In Islamic theology, God (Arabic: Allāh) is the all-powerful and all-knowing creator, sustainer, ordainer, and judge of the universe.[1][2] Islam puts a heavy emphasis on the conceptualization of God as strictly singular (tawhid).[3] God is unique (wahid) and inherently One (ahad), all-merciful and omnipotent.[4] According to the Islamic teachings, God exists without a place.[5] According to the Qur’an, “No vision can grasp Him, but His grasp is over all vision. God is above all comprehension, yet is acquainted with all things” (Qur’an 6:103)[2]

Please feel free to ask any questions in a respectfull manner. I will delete any comments that are made to stir up hatred on all sides.


Muslims are most likely to reject violence, followed by the non-religious atheists and agnostics.

New data from polling firm Gallup shows that out of all the religious groups in the U.S., Muslims are most likely to reject violence, followed by the non-religious atheists and agnostics.

Through interviews with 2,482 Americans, Gallup found that 78 percent of Muslims believe violence which kills civilians is never justified, whereas just 38 percent of Protestant Christians and 39 percent of Catholics agreed with that sentiment. Fifty-six percent of atheists answered similarly.

When Gallup put the question a bit more pointedly, asking if it would be justified for “an individual person or a small group of persons to target and kill civilians,” the responses were a bit more uniform. Respondents from nearly all groups were widely opposed to such tactics, with Protestants and Catholics at 71 percent against. Muslims still had the highest number opposed, at 89 percent. Seventy-six percent of atheists were also opposed.

Destiny and Fate

We always seem blame circumstances for our mistakes and failures in life. We keep telling ourselves that it all happened for a reason.

Different concepts of destiny and fate
Destiny is seen as the final outcome, independent of the events that precede, which are inevitable and unchangeable per themselves, but as a sequence, could be arranged and rearranged in order to arrive to the final outcome.

There is the often confusing argument that individuals can choose their own destiny by selecting different “paths” throughout their life even though the different courses of action the individuals take nonetheless lead to a very predetermined destiny.

To escape the contradiction (the incompatibility of philosophical terminology) of this argument and fully support the concept of destiny, most believe it necessaeclare and accept this notion of choice(free will) as illusion. Another belief, known as Micaic Destiny, states that free will and destiny can coincide in harmony. This argument states that we all make only one unchangeable choice every moment. Simply because a certain choice will inevitably be made does NOT mean that we do not make our own decisions. This belief assumes that we have no power to accurately and precisely predict the future.

A question which has always engaged human attention is whether the affairs of this world are going on in accordance with a pre-arranged and inevitable program. Are all the events in this world governed by an invisible but immensely powerful force called fate and destiny? Is everything that is happening now or will ever happen, predetermined? Is man subject to determinism and has no liberty of choosing? Or is it that there is no such thing as fate and man is absolutely free to determine his own destiny? Or is it that actually there operates a third alternative, according to which all events of the world are governed by destiny, the influence of which extends to everything without exception, but still its irresistible influence does not curtail human liberty in the least. If this is the case, how is it to be explained?

The question of fate and destiny is one of the most equivocal philosophical questions. For certain reasons to be explained later, it has been a subject of dispute among the Muslim thinkers from the first century of the Hijri era. The various views held in this connection have caused many controversies and given rise to a number of sects in the Muslim world with queer results during the past fourteen centuries.

Though it is a so called metaphysical subject, for two reasons it also comes under the category or practical and social questions.

The first reason is that man’s way of thinking about this question affects his practical life and social attitude.

It is obvious that the spirit and attitude of a man looking at himself as a being subject to inexorable determinism, is different from those of one who believes that he has been created free and hence he is master of his destiny.

Generally speaking, most of the philosophical questions do not affect the spirit, attitude and actions of man. The practical attitude and the social spirit of a person are not influenced by such questions as the temporal eternity or transcience of the universe, the finiteness or infinitude of its dimensions, the system of causation, the theory that many cannot emanate from one and the identicalness of the essence and the attributes of the Self-existent Being.

The second reason is that the doctrine of fate and destiny, despite its being a personal belief, comes under the category of the questions of universal application, for the number of people who are in search of its solutions is very large.

It is one of those questions which engage the attention of nearly all those who have some capacity of thinking over general questions. Everybody is naturally interested in knowing whether he is at liberty to determine his course of life or it has already been irrevocably determined by his fate.

The scope of other philosophical questions is limited. They are only a matter of personal and private interest and do not attract such a general attention.

From these two view-points this question may be included in the category of practical, universal and social problems.

In olden days attention was seldom paid to the practical and social effects of this question. It was discussed only from theoretical, philosophical and scholastic points of view. But modern scholars give more heed to its practical and social aspects, and look at it from the angle of its effect on the way of thinking of the nations and their progress and decline.

I wonder what yout thoughts are on this subject?

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