A good Marriage. Almost 50 years and going strong.
Before going for his walk today, hubby smiled at me and gave me a peck on the cheek. I asked with a smile ‘what is that in aid of?’ he said ” i just looked at you and remembered all the years we have spent together”. I wonder if that’s because i was in the kitchen preparing vegetables for soup and his main memories are of me in the kitchen :-/. However, this was a lovely unexpected gesture:-)) as he is not a very demonstrative man and these occasions are sporadic.
It got me thinking….in 4 years time we will have been married 50 years. Wow!! Believe me when i say it just seems like 20 years. Time flies past so quickly that is seems like a blink of the eye and your collecting your pension. I feel blessed and i want to share a picture with my followers of my lovely hubby ,children,grandchildren and foster daughter. You might think I’m showing off, and yes…. i am because i am so happy and proud of what i have and i wish the same for all couples. (p.s don’t know why my eyes are always closed when i have my picture taken )
Being married is not easy and everyone has their ups and downs and we are no exception. They say, never go to bed on an argument…well we have! I am sure we all try not to but in reality it does not always work. My stance on this is not to let an argument fester and things generally look better in the morning so sort out your problems asap. Mutual respect, consideration for each other are very important and cover a multitude of things. Knowing that you can depend on each other whatever the situation and talking about your feelings. These things have to be a two way street. Although i have my own way a lot because my hubby is so laid back i still respect his opinion and discuss things with him. If he ever says no to anything that concerns us both then i will listen and refrain. I never take advantage of his kindness and vice versa.
One of the nicest things you can say to your partner, “If I had it to do over again, I’d choose you. Again.”
Because I realise just how extremely lucky I was and how unlikely are the odds of finding just the right man I’d be the last one to advise anyone else on how to do it and also the last to judge anyone whose marriage didn’t work out because they hadn’t been as fortunate as me.However i do think that many people rush into relationships and expect them to just keep working after the honeymoon period not expecting to re adjust, not to expect falling out periods, feel defeat at the first signs of a crisis. We cant expect to spend our whole life in close proximity to another person without some trials and tribulations .
- Good quotes:
- Coming together is the beginning.
Keeping together is progress.
Working together is success.
- What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility.
- Leo Tolstoy
- A good marriage is the union of two good forgivers. Ruth Bell Graham
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails..”
Here is a story that touched my heart. http://www.sptimes.com/2008/03/04/Northpinellas/Even_death_couldn_t_k.shtml